FaithMay 19, 2023

Almonds and Gold

I can be pretty sentimental at times – I love traditions and finding things that symbolize an emotion or memory.  When my husband and I were engaged and we were planning our wedding and reception, I researched various wedding traditions.  One that struck me and that I ended up incorporating as wedding favors for our guests was Jordan Almonds.  Jordan Almonds are bittersweet: the almonds bitter, the candy coating sweet.  Bittersweet – like so many moments in life. Our wedding day for the first example: bitter because we were leaving our families, our childhoods; sweet because we were choosing each other and had the hope of a beautiful united life together and creating our own family.

My parents are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. Fifty years, half of a century ... countless Jordan Almond moments...

When that newborn finally slept through the night ... so sweet to get some rest, but you knew they were already growing too fast

New and promising career opportunities ... but leaving what was always home to create a new one

A life changing diagnosis ... but you knew you’d walk through it together

Every milestone of your daughters and your grandkids... so full of joy and pride, but time please slow down

Saying goodbye to loved ones, rejoicing that they’re in paradise, but grieving their absence

Bittersweet moments of both joy and pain; hope and disappointment; quick answers to prayer and long periods of waiting.  I believe the sweet part of bittersweet comes from faith in God, and a marriage that lasts is built on that faith.  No matter how bitter life will sometimes inevitably be, God is still sweet.

My parents have always had that strong faith, that God is good and that we can trust Him completely.  They taught my sister and I, both by what they said and how they lived, to build our lives and our marriages on the firm foundation that God is Sovereign, He is good, He is faithful, and we are here to reflect Him and His love.

Fifty years is such a big deal! Less than 5% of marriages last 50 years.  What an example they are.  What a legacy they’ve built.  What a picture of grace and love and patience and selflessness ... a picture of Christ’s love, which is how marriages are supposed to be.

Jordan almonds are the tradition and symbol for marriages just beginning; the tradition and symbol after walking through so many moments of bittersweet for 50 years of marriage: GOLD.

Gold is ...

...precious

...strong

...beautiful

...full of value

...resistant to corrosion

...refined

...resilient

Symbols help when words can’t quite fulfill what we want to say.  To my parents – you are GOLD.  I am beyond thankful.

A 1969 snapshot of Emily's mother in a pale shift dress and sunglasses beside a red Mustang on the drive
Emily's parents as teenagers squeezed into one wooden rocking chair, both laughing at the camera
Emily's parents on their wedding day, the bride in a high-necked lace gown and long veil, the groom in a black tuxedo, candelabra behind them
Emily's mother in a pinstriped suit holding her baby daughter in a knitted bonnet
The young family on a deck by the pool, the parents in swimsuits with a small girl in a life jacket and a baby in a bouncer
The four of them in front of a lit Christmas tree, the two girls on the floor with a doll and a toy heart
An Easter portrait by the brick fireplace, the parents behind and the two girls in pale dresses in front
Christy on her wedding day between her parents and her new husband, all four on the church steps
Emily's parents walking back down the aisle together, her father carrying a lit candle, guests in the pews either side
Christy in her wedding gown holding a cascade bouquet, flanked by her mother and father
Emily and Josh on their wedding day standing between her parents, Emily holding a bouquet of red and pink roses
Emily on her father's arm before walking down the aisle, the two of them looking at each other
Emily's parents looking down at a newborn wrapped in white in her father's arms
Emily's parents on a striped sofa, each holding a grandchild on their lap
Emily's mother on a garden bench surrounded by six grandchildren, the baby on her lap
The extended family posed together by the stone fireplace, the youngest boy in a blue argyle vest at the front
Emily's parents standing together in the kitchen doorway, his arm round her shoulder
Emily's parents side by side, both in Kentucky blue, his shirt embroidered UK Kentucky
Emily's parents on a bench beside the lit Christmas tree, their wedding portrait hanging on the wall behind
Emily's parents standing together indoors, she in a cream crocheted cardigan and pink flower necklace
Emily's parents kissing on a white sand beach at golden hour, the sea and a distant sail behind them
Emily's parents standing by the creek at the ranch, sage and autumn grass around them and the bluffs behind
The whole extended family lined up along the patio wall at the ranch, the Big Horn escarpment and open country behind them